Transgender Day of Remembrance


So many things have already said about this day (and much better than I could ever express), so I won’t really talk about that. I attended the event held here in San Diego. It was the first trans* related event that I have attended. I have been meaning to go to one of the trans* support groups that are held at the LGBT Community Center for the past 7 months or so, but I have to admit that I have a bit of social phobia and have found reasons to not go every week. I don’t know why I feel so apprehensive about going since I really have this desire to just meet people who may have similar experiences. But, I’m not very good at just opening up to people when I initially meet them, and I have this idea in my head that I’ll be expected to tell my whole life story the second I show up.

On the other hand, the Transgender Day of Remembrance event was something I could show up to and be a silent participate, able to observe from the crowds. A friend came with me, and as we were standing there, talking, waiting for it to start, a woman came up to us and asked if we wanted to carry a flag. I agreed since I had been watching her go around asking others who respectfully declined. During the march, I carried the bisexual pride flag. As we ended, the woman who handed out the flags asked us all if she could get a picture at the end. She explained that she would be writing an article and intended to use this picture for her piece. That’s how I ended up in the above picture.

After the march, we moved to the LGBT Community Center where a series of speeches were given. Various people from the community were called up to talk about the need to fight to end hate. Then, near the end, Kristin Beck was called to the podium. I looked to my friend, and asked, “The Navy SEAL?!” I didn’t know she was going to be there, so I was pretty surprised when I saw her walk up the the podium. I don’t remember much of what she said because I was kind of awestruck, but she repeated this quote by Martin Luther King Jr. several times, “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.”

All in all, I think ti was a really good experience. I was happy to be around so many other trans people and supporters. Maybe one of these days, I’ll finally be able to build up the courage and take the next step towards going to a support group meeting.